Self-esteem: Things to Remember

1. "Our lives are shaped by those who love us and by those who refuse to love us." - John Powell S.J.
2. Emotions - As children, some of us are taught not to be angry, not to cry, not to be afraid. We need to accept the full range of our emotions.
3. Thoughts precede feelings. If I change what I say to myself, my feelings will be more positive.
4. Never try to please someone who can't be pleased.
5. Learn how to ask for what you want.
6. Be able to say "no."
7. What we say to ourselves is what matters. "No matter what you say or do to me, I am still a worthwhile person."
8. We are all imperfect with general limitations and specific fallibilities.
9. "Self-esteem is a sickness if it gives me approval for good acts but condemns me if I fail." -- Albert Ellis
10. Become active and self-directing. Take charge of your life.